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No, I Can’t Read Your Mind. Well, I Can, But I Don’t Want To

by | Oct 14, 2019 | Mediumship | 7 comments

I sometimes get a strange reaction from people when they find out I’m a medium.

Maybe it’s because they don’t believe in mediums; maybe it’s because they aren’t comfortable with what I do, but sometimes it’s just because they’re afraid I’m going to know what they are thinking. They could be perfectly fine with me, and then they ask what I do for a living, or someone else drops the bomb, and boom; their whole demeanor suddenly changes, as if they’ve got something to hide, and I’m going to know exactly what it is. I’ll never forget when a friend introduced me to her new boyfriend, and the terror on his face (I’d say in “his eyes’, but he wouldn’t look at me) and his awkward stance, as if he wanted to turn and run, said it all. And then there was the long-time family friend, who had been perfectly fine around me for 40 years…until, that is… he found out about my ability. Suddenly, he was uncomfortable around me and told family members he was afraid I could read his mind. Thank God, my mother quickly cleared that up, letting him know that wasn’t my gig. There are so many more instances, but you get the gist.

I get it though. I have had some pretty amazing mentors, and when I’m in their presence I’m totally thinking, “Oh God, what if she knows what I’m thinking right now.” And sure, if my mentors really wanted to know what I’m thinking, they could tune in and read my thoughts. Now, don’t get confused, they wouldn’t be reading my energy, which is the definition of a psychic reading, instead, they would be reading my mind, which is considered telepathic, and yep, there is a difference. But either way, they could read me.

The question is “Do they really want to?” I doubt it. Let me explain.

Whether we’re sitting in an office doing private readings, on stage giving messages from passed loved ones to audiences or teaching a class, maintaining an altered state to do the work of a psychic, medium (or even a mind-reader) takes a lot of energy. When we’re not working, it’s in our best interest to conserve and restore our energy. I often use the analogy of a hair stylist. What if they walked around with scissors in hand everywhere they went – the grocery store, the mall, the movies, a restaurant or even a concert – stopping to cut everyone’s hair along the way. After being on their feet all day at the salon, they’d probably be pretty wiped out – physically and mentally, so I’m guessing some down time would be pretty important to them.

And there’s more to it. Not only do they need to give themselves some down time, but it would be pretty crazy if they felt they had the right to walk up to people everywhere they went and just start cutting hair without permission. How would you feel if you were in the grocery story, waiting in the deli line when suddenly someone you don’t even know grabs hold of your hair and starts cutting? I think I’d freak out. I’d be like, “Let go. What are you doing? No one told you you could cut my hair!”, and God forbid they’re new to their craft and don’t really know what they are doing yet. You could end up with a real mess. The same is true for a medium or psychic who randomly walks up to you to give you a message. First of all, what are they doing getting in your thoughts and energy? You didn’t invite them or give them permission, and what if they don’t really know what they are doing? Being a psychic or medium takes a lot more than just an ability; it takes training – lots and lots of it – and years of development. If they don’t have that training, they could be just as destructive as an untrained hairstyles – or even worse.

changing our perspective with a different understanding of the spirit world.  There are no evil spirits, ghosts or demons.

Even when I’m working, and someone has given me permission to do a reading, I still don’t want to read minds.

In fact, I believe it would be unethical. A little clarification here so you understand. As you may already know, all mediums are psychic, and probably telepathic, but there is a difference between working psychically, telepathically and mediumistically. If I’m working psychically, my information is coming from the energy of the client sitting with me, and if I’m working telepathically, I’d be reading the thoughts of the client in front of me. Some people want a psychic reading, because it can be difficult to tune into their own energy, and they may want information about a current or future situation to get some clarity. But there isn’t much reason to read someone telepathically because most people already know their own thoughts. Why pay someone else to tell you what you are thinking, right? Now if I’m doing a mediumistic reading, I’m telling my client I’m getting information from those in the spirit world, and that’s exactly where my information should be coming from; not from the thoughts of the client sitting in front of me. If I were reading the client’s mind to tell them what they want to hear, I’d be doing the spirit world – and the client – a huge disservice. I wouldn’t be giving the messages those in spirit want me to share, I’d only be reiterating the thoughts of what the client expects to hear. That’s not what clients come for; and their loved ones in spirit certainly wouldn’t be very happy with me if I pretended messages were coming from them when they aren’t. I can’t speak for other mediums, but I know I don’t ever want to disappoint those in the spirit world. My goal is to always be a clear, authentic vessel of communication for them. When I’ve done that, I know I’ve done what’s right.

So, you see, while I could read someone’s mind, I don’t really want to. There’s enough going on inside my own head to be quieted; it’s best if I don’t have to quiet everyone else’s thoughts too. – lol.

P.S. If this article has led you to the question “Can you turn your abilities off and on when you want?”, you may have just read my mind because that’s exactly what my next blog post is about.? Stay Tuned!


  1. Hi Ms. Cottrell I was reading one email which you responded to. I have a similar problem. I was living next to neighbors who are psychics (two of them) and they have been stalking me, and read reading my mind for over four years now, and have been interfering negatively with every aspect of my life. I have even moved to another state and it is still going on…I can hear them everywhere I go (In my mind) They are trying to damage my every thought. How can i stop this?

    • Hi Tony, thanks for your question. As a psychic medium, I believe this ability can be misunderstood. When people first find out what I do, their demeanor sometimes changes, as if they think I’m going to, without invitation, start digging into their thoughts. Admittedly, it can be hurtful knowing people would think I would use this ability to invade someone’s privacy or be disrespectful to them in any way. The reality is, I don’t read everyone I meet; in fact, I don’t read anyone unless they’ve asked me to. With this in mind, if you haven’t already, you may want to have a conversation with your previous neighbors to better understand their use of their ability. There’s a very good chance they too are only using their ability for those who have requested it. Using psychic abilities can be draining, so my guess is your neighbors probably aren’t using theirs all the time; there would be no benefit to them to be constantly reading someone else’s energy, so there’s a possibility this may be a misunderstanding that can easily be cleared up. There’s another important thing to know about psychic ability…it is the ability to READ energy, but it is NOT the ability to interfere or change another person’s energy, thoughts or actions. So, even if someone with psychic ability reads your energy or thoughts, they wouldn’t be able to interfere with your thoughts or actions. All humans have been given free will, so we choose our own thoughts and actions; a psychic can not interfere with that. Hopefully, this information helps you feel more at ease.

    • Can you actually be telepathic? Reading people’s thoughts while you are sleeping ? .
      Can spirits do this while you are sleeping? …. what can spirits do in are world like have sex with you ? Move things ? Write on your hands? Etc…. breath on mirrors to know they are there ?
      Need information on this.

    • Hi Andrea, those are all really great questions. To be honest, I’m not sure if I can think of a time when I telepathically read someone’s thoughts while I was sleeping, but I can think of times when psychic information (from someone’s energy / soul; not their thoughts) has come through while sleeping. As far as whether a spirit can communicate with you while sleeping, I would say yes, they can. It’s actually what often happens during visitations from those in spirit during our sleep.

      It is really interesting to consider what someone in spirit is able to do. They often manipulate energy with the loving intention of getting our attention. Using energy, they may be able to move an item or create a noise for us to hear (the sound of their voice, a door moving or shutting, something falling to the floor to create a noise). They no longer have a physical body though, so many of the things we do in our physical lives requiring physical organs / body parts (like eating, smoking, drinking and sex) would no longer be an activity those in spirit would engage in.

  2. Hi this might sound strange but my neighbor is a medium and she’s stalking me without my permission, eavesdropping, energy reading and even reading my thoughts … How can I block her? Please help

    • Hello. Thanks for sharing your question. Some psychics or mediums may not realize the use of their abilities, without permission, is an intrusion of other people’s privacy. I’ve known mediums who have lost friendships because they mistakenly thought other people wanted to “be read”, whether permission was granted or not. With this in mind, it might be helpful if you have a conversation with your neighbor. Without accusing the neighbor, you may want to ask her if she recognizes she is doing this. If she acknowledges, kindly bring it to her attention that you feel boundaries are being crossed and it is important to you that she not use her abilities to gain access to your private life. Some psychics and mediums who are just learning to develop don’t yet know how to control their ability, so if your neighbor doesn’t feel she knows how to turn the ability off and on, you could kindly recommend she take a class to assist with her development.

  3. This is great. Thank you.

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